How to Keep Positive When It’s Pouring

I haven’t written a post in a few weeks because my “day” job has kept me pretty busy, and frankly, it has felt like I have a lot going on. It’s been overwhelming to me and as I finally saw some positive light in my tunnel today, I felt like I should write this post for myself. Sometimes I feel like I write my posts for me and hope that others can benefit from it. So here is how I have been dealing with my life, keeping positive, and embracing the challenges that come along with adulting, and I hope it can help you too.

 

Stop ignoring the problem

Have you guys ever seen that meme about ignoring your bank account when it’s low? I am the epitome of that. My car broke down (the clutch) and I knew it was a big fix coming so I just parked it in its space and went on living and just looked the other way when I walked by. I drive a Mini Cooper, which I love, but it’s always a large expense with maintenance and repairs. Thanks BMW. So after a day or two of ignoring the problem, and not being able to go anywhere without Lyft, I had to face it. It ended up being a relief to address the issue and face it head on.

 

Remember that this too will pass

So we’ve all heard the phrase “When it rains, it pours.” Sometimes it’s overwhelming when life tests us, one little thing can feel like a monstrous thing. I legit cried yesterday because of a breakout on top of everything else. It can feel like everything bad always happens to you. It takes a special person to just completely rebound and be ready to attack the next thing immediately one after another. It’s helpful to remember that everything is constantly moving and changing, and after the rain comes a rainbow. Cliche cliche, but you know it’s true. It’s easier to notice the bad things, but remember how much good goes on every single day, even if you get a zit, and stub your toe, and drop your coffee all in one day. Say it with me, stay positive.

 

Rely on those you trust

In the moment, it can feel like everything is wrong, you don’t have anyone on your side, no one gets what you’re going through. Sometimes, it can even be embarrassing to talk to someone about what’s going on. But you have to fight past that and talk to someone you trust. Sometimes just the process of talking through it can be soothing. And get past the embarrassment; the truth is, there is no such thing as someone having their life together. We all have things going on behind the scenes. No one is perfect and no one expects you to be either. Plus, you never know when unexpected support can come your way.

 

Help always comes when you need it

I am not a religious person, but I do think that there is an ebb and flow to life, and probably a higher power out there. During these rainstorms, shelter can come in the most unexpected places. It may not be in the form you imagined, or from whom you imagined it from, but life always has your back. Especially when it doesn’t feel like it.

 

Overall, everything is falling into place for me, and it will for you too. Be ready to recognize and embrace life when it’s on the upswing.

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On Staying Inspired

Great, classic design. My dogs. A really good print. Flower gardens. Books. I try to find inspiration in everything. It gets hard on tough days, as it does for everyone. When I’m in a rut or just can’t get it together (I mean adulting is hard), I try to find the positive in the situation and draw from it. 

If I’m realllly in a rut, then I do a couple of things:

Read a Book
It amazes me how a book can take you to another place. Whether it’s reading a new book, or a familiar title (looking at you Harry Potter), it can pull you right out of a slump. The reason I keep reading HP after all these years is the detail. I swear every time I read it, some new detail that is perfectly executed pops up. Seriously, JK Rowling’s brain is nothing short of miraculous. It makes me want to be better at my craft, whatever it may be that day.

Take a Photography Walk
I love photography. I’m not the greatest or the worst. But the sheer amount of joy it gives me is incredible. When I’m feeling some kind of way, I’ll just grab my camera and my keys and spend some time photographing whatever I see that gives me a little boost. Sometimes I come back with a lot of meh photos, and that’s ok. For me it’s about the journey. A great photo is a bonus!

Dogs
These tiny fluff balls are my babies. There is something so pure about the unconditional love of a dog. They adore your every movement, and they are amazed by everything. How could you not conquer the world after snuggling a puppy?

Painting
Painting is proof that you do not have to be good at something for it to be inspiring or soothing. I am not a creator and I am bad at DIY and so I pull inspiration from others. I trace and color and paint to my hearts content. But there is something so soothing about putting brush to canvas it is invigorating.

How do you find inspiration?

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Book Club: First Women

Making Time for Reading

I have this saying if you’re too busy, it’s because you want to be. It seems like people are always using “too busy” as an excuse for why they aren’t doing something. Whether it’s the gym, or blogging, or reading more, people find time for the things they actually want to do. I have to force myself to do certain things instead of letting myself be “too busy.” 

Growing up, I loved reading. You couldn’t find me without a book and I was constantly looking for more to read and more to learn. I like to think it’s because I am a lifelong learner. I tend to get excited about a topic and then spend every spare second learning about it and becoming immersed in it. 

As an adult, reading is a task I find myself being too busy for. And honestly, it’s an excuse. Which brings me back to my point. I love reading, so why am I so busy?

My Thoughts on the Book

The first book I picked back up for this is First Women: The Grace and Power of America’s Modern First Ladies by Kate Andersen Brower. I love history and learning more about the people who have shaped it. I also love reading about powerful women. And the women behind our country’s greatest leaders are some of the most powerful women I know of. People might disagree here, and that’s totally ok. The First Ladies aren’t your traditional powerful woman. But there is something so amazing about being secure in yourself enough to put an entire country’s needs before your own. 

It’s a really good read, and there are some interesting “behind the scenes” details about our modern first ladies. I also think it’s important to share but it did seem as if the author was more biased towards some ladies but that could just be the way I read it. 

If you have interest in any First Ladies, or some behind the scenes look at the White House and Presidency, this book is for you. Especially if you love Jackie Kennedy. It’s clear the author, like myself and many others, adored the Kennedys.

What are you currently reading? What books should I add to my reading list?

 

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